It’s one of the most loaded choices in gay sex: bareback or condom. And while apps are full of guys declaring “raw only” or “always wrapped,” the truth is way more nuanced. What men are choosing in 2025 depends on trust, vibe, body, and context — not just horniness.
Raw Used to Be Taboo — Now It’s Trending
Back in the day, going raw meant risk. Now, with PrEP and U=U, more men feel safe ditching condoms. But does that mean everyone’s doing it? Not quite. Some guys feel freer bare. Others say it helps them connect. And yeah, some do it because they hate the feel of latex. But there’s still a strong — and growing — crowd of men choosing protection with purpose.
Why Some Men Still Say Yes to Condoms
It’s not just about STIs (though that’s reason enough). Some men last longer with condoms. Others don’t want to rely entirely on a partner’s honesty about meds or status. And some just find it hot — the sound, the tension, the power move of saying “put this on.”
When the Mood Shifts Mid-Sex
I was once with a guy who started with a condom, then halfway through whispered “Can we take it off?” I froze. The moment changed. I didn’t say yes — but I didn’t say no hard enough either. That moment stuck with me. Now, I make my boundaries clear before the clothes come off. And honestly? Sex got better after that.
How Couples Navigate It
Plenty of couples start with condoms, then transition to raw as trust builds. Some never go raw. Others do right away. There’s no single right answer. But communication is everything. “Are we exclusive?” “What’s your testing routine?” “How do you feel about STIs beyond HIV?” These aren’t buzzkills — they’re maturity.
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On gaysnear.com, I met men who weren’t afraid to talk protection. No weirdness, no pressure. One even listed his preferred condom brand in his bio. That kind of openness makes sex feel better before it even starts.
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It’s Not About Judgment — It’s About Choice
No one should be shamed for choosing bareback — or condoms. What matters is informed, mutual decision-making. That’s the new sexy. That’s the new power move.
For deeper thoughts on gay sex and connection, read how guys are navigating this in our honest piece: Do gay guys still use condoms?
And remember — real men respect your choices. You’ll find them on gaysnear.com and in our full library of real talk at gaydatingfree.com.
How I Changed My Mind (Twice)
When I first got on PrEP, I went raw every time. It felt liberating. But then I caught something — not HIV, but something I had to explain to every partner after. The shame sucked. I went back to condoms for a while. Then I met someone I trusted, and we decided together to go bare. It felt intentional, not impulsive. That’s the difference.
Generational Differences Are Real
Younger guys, raised in the post-PrEP world, often feel invincible. Older gay men remember funerals. That memory shapes their habits. But across ages, more men are talking openly now — no matter what they choose, they choose it consciously.
Peer Pressure in the Scene
On apps and at parties, “bare only” is common. But so is ghosting when you ask for protection. That sucks. But trust — for every guy who judges, there’s another who’ll admire your standards. Don’t lower your safety for someone who can’t meet you where you are.
Is It Hotter With or Without?
Depends who you ask. Some guys say nothing feels as good as raw. Others love the way a condom makes it last longer. The pop of the wrapper. The roll-down moment. The eye contact when you ask: “You good with this?” That’s sexy too.
Your Choice, Your Power
Whatever you choose — bareback, condom, or somewhere in between — make it your own. Talk about it. Practice it. Own it. That confidence? That’s the hottest thing of all.
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